How to Rise to The Challenge of Raising a Teenage Boy With ADD/ADHD

Parenting A Teenage Boy With ADD/ADHD

Parents of teenage boys will agree that, despite their often loud and rowdy disposition, teenage boys surprise us by their flashes of brilliance, perhaps giving deeper insight into the man they potentially will become years down the road. Needless to say, teenage males can be hard to keep up with. But what happens when a teenage boy suffers from ADD/ADHD? How do parents of a child suffering from ADD/ADHD meet the added challenge of raising a teenage boy with such an affliction?

ADD/ADHD Experts Chime in…

Judith Levy Cohen, M.E.d. is a certified learning specialist from a private practice in New York state. She explains, “Adolescent boys with ADD are their own worst enemies.” She says, “They refuse to ask for the help they need; instead, their mantra is, ‘I want to do it all my myself!’ This is not a misprint. Two boys in my class, both with ADD, were so distracted that they reversed their words and never noticed!”

“They refuse to ask for the help they need; instead, their mantra is, ‘I want to do it all my myself!’

For parents of a teenage boy struggling with ADD, it may feel overwhelming at times. However, parents need to understand that, while attention deficit disorder is a difficult issue to manage, it is very treatable. Moreover, with the proper guidance, love, understanding and care, parents can assist their child who has ADD/ADHD.

Below are just some of the ways a parent can encourage a teenage boy suffering from ADD/ADHD:

Being There for a Teenage Boy With ADD/ADHD

It’s Crucial to Build Up His Strengths: As a parent, acknowledge your son’s triumphs more than you point out his failures. In other words, let him know that you recognize all of his positive attributes.

For example: if he excels in sports, go to his games and cheer him on. If he has a proclivity for writing, encourage him to write and give him positive feedback on all of his material.
Let Your Son Make His Own Decisions: While it’s true a parent occasionally needs to ‘lay the law down,’ so to speak, parents still need to able to let go and let their child make mistakes on their own. All too often parents intervene at every corner, preventing their child from learning and adapting to the consequences of their decisions, stunting their emotional maturity in the process.
For example: If your son chooses to stay awake all night to play video games, let them indulge one night. After waking them up for school, remind them that they have eight hours of schoolwork to look forward to. By suffering these types of consequences, teenage boys will learn to not engage in the kind of behavior that caused them discomfort. Only after a child continuously makes these kinds of behavioral choices is it necessary for a parent to intervene.
Most Importantly, BE PATIENT! : While this may be the most difficult part of parenting, it is also the most crucial for parents of a child with ADD.
For example: If you are frustrated with your child’s constant behavioral issues, stay poised and keep the end goal of their progression in mind. While it may be overwhelming at times, it is imperative to empathize with your child and understand that they struggle with a disorder you don’t fully understand. With this mindset in place, it will be much easier to support and assist your son in his day-to-day battles with ADD/ADHD.

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